[開悟卡] 關係牌組 執著

KEY CONCEPTS:

重要概念：

Attachment to past needs; fear of moving forward

依戀過去的需求；恐懼前進



Holding on is an attempt to get needs from the past- fulfilled in our current situation.

執著是企圖在當前的形勢下，得到過去的需求。

Yet the situation or person involved is unlikely to meet these needs, which keeps us from receiving in the present.

然而，目前的情況或人不可能滿足這些需求。

The mind, believing what it imagines to be true, fools us into thinking We actually have the person or quality we are holding on to from the past.

頭腦，相信它的想像是真實的，唬弄我們能從過去得到人或能量。

A sure sign you’re holding on to something from the past is that something’s missing from your life now.

一個明確跡象顯示，你執著現在的生活中有某些東西從過去被遺失。

In whatever place you had this quality in the past - but refused to let go of it - you will not have it in the present.

無論身在何處，你過去有這個能量 - 但拒絕放手 - 你將不會看到現在。

Holding on is a form of tantrum, a form of refusing to go forward until you get your way.

執著是種發脾氣，拒絕向前走的形式，直到你走出自己的路。

In doing so, we turn from a life direction to a death direction.

執著，讓我們從人生方向轉向死亡。

Most people confuse holding on with love, but holding on has more to do with getting your needs met.

多數人混淆執著與愛，但執著更多的是讓期望得到滿足。
（譯者：meed 是需求的意思，但我認為譯成期望比較恰當。）

While there is a natural mourning process we go through when we have lost someone or something, holding on is a form of malingering.

雖然哀悼我們失去的某人或某事是種自然過程，但執著是偽裝。

The more you hold on, the more unattractive you become, and the more you push away the person you’re holding on to (at some level, the other person realizes your love is not about him or her, but that it’s about you getting your needs met).

越執著越沒吸引力，而且會推開你所堅持的人事物（在一定程度上，其他人意識到你的愛不是對他或她，只是為了滿足你的期望）。

Paradoxically, letting go brings back your attractiveness, and also brings both empowerment and the next step.

奇怪的是，放手帶回你的吸引力，同時也帶來賦權與下一步。

However, it is important to make the distinction between letting go and pushing away (which is dissociating).

重要的是區別放手和推開（這是離解）。

This kind rejecting is independence and it comes from being it just fed up and angry.

拒絕是獨立的，它來自厭倦和憤怒。

The neediness, dependency and that hide under anger will have to be faced sooner or later.

憤怒下隱藏的窘困，遲早要面對。

So, a person must decide, whether they want to hold on, or to succeed.

所以，一個人必須決定，他們要繼續執著還是邁向成功。

If you’re holding on to a person who has left, they will be repulsed by it.

如果你執著於一個已經離開的人，他們會被拒絕。

But if you let go of them layer by layer (or, all at once, if you're courageous), they will recontact you.

但如果你願意一層層放下（或一次放下，如果你夠勇敢），他們將重新聯繫你。

If you stay connected, but unattached, you are bound for success, whereas holding on always prevents success.

如果你保持聯繫，但不附著，你一定會成功，而執著總阻止成功。

Now is the time to make a choice.

現在是做出選擇的時候。

Do you want success, or do you want to continue to hold on and manipulate to get your needs met?

你想成功，還是繼續堅持和掌控，期待得到滿足？

Using the card

使用該卡

If you receive this card, you are being asked to take look at what you are holding on to.

如果您收到這張卡，你被要求看看你正執著什麼。

Receiving this card means you are being asked to let go and to trust in yourself.

收到此卡意味著你被要求放手，並信任自己。

In letting go and being open-handed, you can now receive.

在放手和敞開心胸後，你可以接收。

While letting go can be a particularly difficult lesson, it can be done easily and with grace.

儘管放手是特別困難的一課，但仍可以容易與優雅地完成。

There are different forms of letting go.

有不同形式的放手。

One is simply to feel the feeling until all the negative, or dead, feelings and emotions are gone, and there is a positive feeling there instead.

一種是身臨其境，直到所有負面和死的感情與情緒都消失了，並且用一個正面感覺代替。

The negative emotion can even be exaggerated to accelerate the process.

甚至可以誇張負面情緒加速這個進程。 （譯者不建議誇大負面情緒。）

Another way is using the healing Leadership Principle: ‘If I’m suffering this, there is someone else in even greater need of help. Who is that?’

另一種是使用癒合領導原則：“如果我的痛苦是源於其他更需要幫助的人，那是誰？“

When the answer comes, step through your to respond to, and support, them.

當答案出現，透過逐步回應和支持他們。

Your pain and theirs, or at least one layer of it, will drop away, and you will once again be in the flow.

你和他們的痛苦，至少少一層或消失，你們將再次流動。

If there are many layers of pain, you could just keep responding to different people.

如果痛苦有許多層，你需要應對不同人。

Each time you step through your to support someone else, to make the other person more important, further layers of your will drop away.

每次通過你來支持別人更重要的時刻，你的痛苦就會減少。

This works much better than avoiding it, denying it or trying to tough it out.

這工作好過逃避它，否認它或試圖堅持到底。

Letting go is taking the next step forward (which is being willing for the next step to come to you);

放手是為了下一步（願意讓下一步來找你）；

it is giving back whatever you are holding on to; it is making the choice,‘I will no longer use this to hold myself back.’ It is forgiveness.

它是你的堅持；做出選擇， “我將不再使用它來抑制自己。” 這就是寬恕。

Simply, it is giving the attachment to your Higher Mind so that you can end your suffering and succeed.

簡單說，鍵結你的高我，可以讓你結束痛苦與獲得成功。