[開悟卡] 關係牌組 心碎

KEY CONCEPTS：

重要概念：

Rejection (unwillingness to accept)；emotional tantrum and blackmail

抑制（不願意接受）；發脾氣和勒索



A major heartbreak or betrayal may be a replay of one which has an earlier root, often in childhood, when you felt betrayed or rejected by your beloved, your parents, life or God.

心碎和背叛可以是早年就播下的種子，在兒童期，你有被出賣的感覺，你覺得被愛人、父母，生命或神拒絕。

However, being rejected is actually a form of projection; it is a choice (albeit, often a split-second one) we have made to reject someone else.

然而，被拒絕實際上是一種投影形式；這是一個選擇（通常是瞬間），我們已拒絕別人。

But then we see the other as rejecting us, because they are not doing what we want, in the way we want them to, which We equate with their love for us.

後來我們看到其他人拒絕我們，因為他們沒有做我們想要的，沒有用我們想要的方式來證明他們對我們的愛。

Heartbreak comes out of something We refuse to accept.

心碎從我們拒絕接受的事中出現。

What we refuse to accept is that another will not fill our needs.

我們拒絕接受是另一種不會滿足我們的需求。

Heartbreak, then, is a form of power struggle or competition that comes out of trying to get our needs met.

心碎，是權力鬥爭或競爭中，試圖讓我們的需求得到滿足的一種形式。

We can also use it as a form of emotional blackmail or manipulation to get others to respond to us in the way that we want them to.

我們可以用它情感敲詐或操縱，讓別人用我們希望的方式回應我們。

When they don’t, we break our hearts with what We totally refuse to accept.

如果他們不這樣做，我們就會心碎和完全拒絕接受。

We reject them for not taking care of us or doing it our Way to meet our needs.

我們拒絕他們不照顧我們，或照我們期待的方式，來滿足我們的需求。
（你不能不理我，而且要照我期待的方式做。）

You can only be hurt if you Want something from someone and are denied it.

如果你想從別人身上得到東西，只會被拒絕，並讓自己受傷。

You can only have your heart broken if, in trying to get your needs met, you are giving to take, or to obtain under the of And it is this behavior which results in your being pushed away.

如果試圖用心碎的方式，讓自己需求得到滿足，這種行為將導致你被推開。

Using the card

使用該卡

If you receive this card today, you are being asked to look at where your needs are interfering with your relationships.

如果你收到這張卡片，請看一下你的需求，它正在干擾你的人際關係。

These needs are not your love.

這些需求不是你的愛。

If your partner seems to be moving away from you in any Way which seems hurtful to you, consider what you might be trying to take from him or her.

如果你的伴侶似乎用傷害你的任何方式遠離你，研究看看你是否試圖從他或她身上得到東西。

Consider whether or not there is someone or something else, or some other situation, you are refusing to accept because you have valued your control more than acceptance.

是否有某人、某物，或其他情況，你拒絕接受，因為你看重你的控制多於接受。

The more we reject something, the more it hurts.

越是拒絕，越痛。

But what we understand, accept, forgive and let go of today can free You have an opportunity today not only to heal the hurt, but also the underlying pattern of heartbreak - if you so choose.

我們的理解、接受、原諒和放手，給你一個釋放的機會，今天你可以醫治傷害，同時也治癒心碎的基本模式 - 如果你願意如此選擇。

Learning this lesson will provide a Whole new level of maturity and confidence, and will ensure more success in your relationships.

學習本課將提供一個成熟和自信的新水平，並確保你的人際關係更成功。