[開悟卡] 療育牌組 溝通

KEY CONCEPTS:

重要概念：

Faith; confidence; putting the power of your mind toward a positive outcome

信仰；信心；將你的心靈力量用在積極結果上



Communication restores trust, and bridges What seem like two irre-concilable positions.

溝通和恢復信任似乎在橋的兩端，不能協調。

Clarifying ones position,feelings and thoughts accounts for about eighty-five percent of ‘healing communication’, since most problems are simply the result of a misunderstanding.

看清楚位置裡的感受和想法，這些能修復８５％的溝通，因為多數問題只是誤會一場。

Communication heals boredom by sharing What has been withheld, and bringing excitement back into a relationship.

透過溝通分享，看看是什麼隱藏其中，並回到興奮的關係中。

Communication finds the common elements and emotion in any conflict and brings people together in mutuality.

溝通找到在衝突中的共通元素和情感，並帶來互動的人際關係。

Through transformational communication, people heal themselves and move forward together.

透過溝通轉型，治愈自己並一起前進。

Using the card

使用該卡

If you receive this card, understand that true communication will provide the Way to success.

如果您收到此卡，真正的溝通將提供成功之路。

There are simple to follow for transformational communication:

簡單的轉型溝通：

Set your goal and know your purpose for the communication.. Realize that the other person is not here to meet your needs or to make you happy.

設定你的目標，了解你溝通的目的......要知道，對方沒有義務滿足你的需要或使你快樂。

This expectation creates a great deal of and constitutes the greatest mistake in any relationship.

這種期望在任何關係中造成大量錯誤。

Share your feeling of upset.

分享你不高興的感覺。

Take responsibility for your feelings and experience.

對你的感情和經驗負責。

If they are your feelings, you are the one who can change them.

如果它們是你的感情，你是唯一一個可以改變它們的人。

Blame stops communication and look for scapegoats (no one advances when this occurs).

怪罪別人和尋找代罪羔羊，將停止溝通。

Remember that the other person will be motivated to communicate if you are saying, ‘I Want to share something with you’ and meaning, ‘let me tell you what you did wrong’, then every time you open your mouth, you will be attacking - not communicating.

記住，如果你說［我想與大家分享東西］，其他人會主動與你溝通，但如果是［讓我告訴你，你做錯了什麼］，那麼每當開口時，你會被攻擊。

Take the upset feelings off the other person,‘and talk about your present feeling instead.

免除將心煩的感覺歸咎於其他人，並談談你現在的心情吧。

Do this as if you (not the other person) are responsible for your feelings.

做到這一點，你正對你的感受負責。（而不是希望其他人為你的感覺負責）

As you talk about your feeling, identify Whether they are old or familiar ones, which is the case if there is a negative pattern already there.

談論你的感受時，它們是否有熟悉感，如果是，觀察是否存在一個負面模式。

Discuss how these feelings may originate from other times and places, and share any old memories of similar situations.

討論過去出現這些感受的時間和地點，並分享這些回憶的類似情況。

To keep this effective, focus on the upsetting emotion as the most important thing to share, rather than the story.

保持有效，專注在不開心的情感分享是最重要的事，而不只是說故事。（補充：設身處地，回到過去引發此種心情的事件上。）

If what you say ‘triggers off’ the other person emotionally, support then if they are in greater pain.

如果你說了什麼"觸發"了其他人的情緒，那麼在他們更大的痛苦中支持他們。

When they have finished, return to what you were saying.

當他們完成後，回到你說的。

During this communication, take a new attitude toward emotions.

在這個溝通中，邁出對情感的新態度。

Be willing to feel your feelings with neither exaggeration nor dismissal.

願意去感受你的感受，不誇張也不駁回。

An exaggeration is a form of emotional manipulation or blackmail, which avoids true feeling.

誇張是情緒操縱或勒索，避開了真實感覺。

It also reinforces dissociation, non-communication and feelings of failure in the other person.

也加強其他人分離，拒絕溝通和失敗的感受。

Often in a relationship, when one person feels terrible it is actually a relationship feeling shared by both but usually only felt by one unless there’s a lot of awareness.

通常在一個關係中，當一個人感到可怕時，實際上是關係雙方共通的情感，但通常只有一人感覺，除非有很多共同意識。

If that person either runs from their feelings, or tries to give the bad feeling to the other, the result is a power struggle.

如果這個人從他們的感情中逃離，或試圖給對方不好的感覺，結果就是權力鬥爭。

Your willingness to own the bad feeling and transform it for both of you either by feeling the feelings until they are gone, or by some other means, will win the admiration of the other person.

你願意轉化自己的不良情緒，直到它們消失，或通過其他方式為你們改變它，將會贏得對方欽佩。

You willingness to move forward will move you both forward.

你的願意會使你自己繼續前進。

Take responsibility for the other person’s feelings and experiences as well as your own.

承擔從他人得到的感受和經歷。

See them as a part of your mind.

看到他們就是你心靈的一部分。

Recognize that anything they seem to be doing to you that you do not like is what you are doing to your self or what you are doing to others.

認識到他們似乎在對你做什麼，你不喜歡你正對你自己做什麼，或你正對別人做什麼。

If what you are experiencing is painful, ask your Higher Mind for help and grace.

如果你正經歷痛苦，詢問你的高我並尋找幫助和恩典。

Know that the extent to which you are relying on yourself is the extent of the difficulty.

了解，只靠自己很困難。（不確定是這個意思，還是別的意思）

If nothing else, use the power of choice to decide, ‘I could be feeling peace or happiness instead of this misery.’

如果沒意外，使用選擇的力量來決定，“我感到平靜和幸福，而不是痛苦”。

As you keep making this choice, you will notice the situation to unfold in a whole new way.

當你不斷進行選擇時，你會注意到情況以全新的方式展開。

Make an effort to reassure the other person about your positive feelings toward them and the relationship.

努力讓其他人感受到你對他們積極的情感和關係。

Do not be discouraged if your reassurances of love, faithfulness, and so on seem to disappear down a bottomless well, or if the other person seems to dismiss or not hear what you are saying - they will be listening and your reassurance will make a vital difference.

如果你感到愛，忠誠等等的保證似乎跑進一個深不見底的井消失了，不要氣餒，或其他人似乎不屑一顧，或聽不到你在說什麼，保持信心將起關鍵作用－他們會聽到你。

Do not allow grievances to get the way - even if you feel - or you will suffer for it.

不要用委屈的方式－即使只是感覺或你決定要吃苦頭。

To be totally right about how things are means you are them stuck with the situation as it presents itself.

為他們堅持的現況，提出你的真實情況是完全正確的事。

Be willing to be wrong, so a happy situation can present itself.

心甘情願是錯的，一個皆大歡喜的局面可以出現。

＊甘願犯錯，一個皆大歡喜的局面可以出現。

＊願意承認錯誤，一個皆大歡喜的局面可以出現。

（不知道是哪個意思）

If you don’t get caught by your anger, you can find the healing, the or miracle hiding behind every negativity.

如果不陷入憤怒中，你可以癒合或找到隱藏在每個消極後的奇蹟。

Finally, remember to appreciate your partner through action, words and touch.

最後，請記得透過行動，言論和聯繫，感謝您的合作夥伴。

Your appreciation is the portal to love.

感激地傳送你的愛。

It creates flow and forward movement.

它創建順流和前進。