KEY CONCEPTS:
重要概念：
Attacking others for perceived wrongs, oflen through self-victirmization
透過自我攻擊產生攻擊別人的錯誤感知。
Revenge is one of the most hidden forces or dynamics.
復仇是最隱蔽的力量或動力之一。
In a situation where people seem to have been victimized,they may actually be getting back a significant person in their life.
在這個情況下人們似乎已經受害，他們可能能追朔到一個在生活中強大的人。
This means that illnesses, accidents, conflicts and problems of any kind can be a significant communication and attack on another.
這意味著，任何一種疾病，意外事故，矛盾和問題，是一個顯著的溝通和攻擊。
Basically, the message at a subconscious level is, ‘This has happened to me because of you. If you had loved me more, treated me better, helped me, not treated me so badly, etc., this would not be happening in my life.’
潛意識層面的信息是［因為你的關係才發生這種事。如果你多愛我一點，對我好，幫我等等.....就不會發生這種事］。
The very essence of the victim stance is, ‘ l am willing to be hurt, so that l can hurt you.’
受害者的本質是［只要我願意受到傷害，就能傷害到你］。
Because the dynamic is so hidden, most people are embarrassed to discover that they have revenge within them.
因為動態如此隱蔽，一般人很難發現，他們在復仇。
Using the card
使用該卡
If you receive this card, you may be actively trying to hurt someone ‘to end the you are suffering (which will not work).
如果您收到這張卡，您也許正試圖傷害別人來結束自己的痛苦（這將無法正常工作）。
It is more likely you are suffering some problem as a means of avenging yourself on another.
它更可能是在遭遇問題時，用來報復自己的手段。
Look at your subconscious motivations, and ask yourself, ‘Who would I be getting back at by having this situation occur?’
看看潛意識動機，並問自己［這種情況是怎麼發生的。］答案在你心中，讓它跳出淺意識。
The answer is in your mind so just let it pop in.
意識到怎麼回事，是成功的一半。
Becoming aware of what is going on is half the battle. However, to say (as many people do) that the revenge you are getting is on yourself is a way of avoiding this powerful question.
然而，許多人得到的答案是，報復是一種逃避問題的方式。
Of course, you are always hurling yourself, but you are also doing that to get back at someone else.
你總是謾罵自己與別人。
To be free of revenge, you must be willing to give up your suffering and the accusations which go with it.
為了離開報復，獲得自由，你必須願意放棄痛苦和指責。
Both forgiveness and letting go would empower you to move forward, and, in coming to a new level of openness, would also allow you to receive what you have always wanted.
寬恕和放手將讓你向前走，並進入一個新的開放水平，也會讓你得到你一直想要的。
The acid test for finding out when you are beyond revenge is that you are no longer suffering.
當你超越復仇的嚴峻考驗時，你不再痛苦。
Revenge is a two-edged sword that cuts both outward and inward.
復仇是一把雙刃劍，同時削減物質與精神。
As the old proverb goes, ‘He who seeks revenge had best two graves.’ Revenge doesn’t work. It stops your life.
正如古老諺語所說［搞報復最好挖兩個墳墓。］，復仇起不了作用，只會停止你的生活。
Today it is time to accept the hidden dynamics - which are what is really going on in your situation - and to forgive and let go so that you might be healed.
現在是接受隱藏動力的時候 - 看看自己的情況究竟怎麼回事，然後原諒和放手並被治癒。
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